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How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex

Talking to our kids about sex can be one of the more daunting and awkward things we do as parents. But if we don’t, who will?

As it turns out, lots of people. And that’s the problem.

Movies, music, and magazines, TV shows and their commercials, online images and everyday conversations with friends—they’re all regularly communicating ideas about sex to our kids. And those ideas are often a significant distortion of the good and powerful gift that God has given us in sex.

Consider a few illuminating stats:

How Do We Keep Following Christ As It Becomes Less Popular with the World Around Us?

I’d be far from the first person to suggest that following Christ is becoming more difficult in our country, and the trend isn’t likely to change anytime soon. While the vast majority of Americans still identify as Christians, the truths that actually define historic, biblically-rooted Christianity are becoming increasingly out of step with our mainstream culture.

That’s no reason to panic. Throughout history, the Christian faith and those who hold to it have often thrived while in the cultural minority. But we should think carefully about what our changing culture entails if our goal is to follow Christ in a biblically faithful way in the days and years ahead.

Glenn Harrison, the Head of Department of Psychiatry at University of Bristol, UK and a Christian, helps point us in the right direction. Here are four key observations from his recently published book, A Better Story: God, Sex, and Human Flourishing:

Russell Brand: Unlikely Critic of Pornography

Russell Brand is what you might call an unlikely critic of pornography. The comedian/actor/author/activist is well known for pushing the boundaries of social convention, so one could be forgiven for thinking he would be more likely to embrace porn than question it. But if this short installment of Brand’s “Trews” videos is any indication, it seems he’s doing the latter because he’s done the former. Take a look (and yes, he does the whole thing with a bed sheet wrapped around himself):

A few highlights:

Is 50 Shades of Grey a Good Jumpstart for Our Sex Lives?

The following is slightly updated from a previous guest post by Kelley Wampler. 

A few years ago, Dr. Oz, the physician turned popular talk show host, did a show on the success of the bestselling book 50 Shades of Grey. Oz’s goal for the show was to uncover the reason behind its crazy popularity. I’m sure there are many reasons why women are reading this book trilogy and are going to line up for the movie that opened this weekend. But, at least one significant one he suggested was that women were finding it helpful for their sex life. The show went on to make the case that “erotica” is a great solution to increasing a woman’s libido. But is that really true?

Talking to Your Kids About Sex

My wife and I are the parents of three kids, and though the oldest is just starting second grade, we’ve been occasionally discussing how to talk with our kids about sex. In fact, it might be better to say that we’ve been discussing how to continue talking to them about the subject (more on this below).

To be sure, we’re not having or even planning a comprehensive conversation with them anytime soon (more on this below as well), but we are trying to think through how to approach the whole issue now and as our kids get older. This brings me quickly to two important points:

1. If you’re wondering if we’re jumping the gun with our kids about sex, I’m not sure whether you’ve been paying enough attention. I don’t say that to be annoying, but rather to point out that kids in our culture are exposed to sex and sensuality earlier and more often than ever before. And this is apart from all the naturally inquisitive questions that kids tend to raise at any age (you guessed it: more below).

2. That beings said, we haven’t figured it all out. Not even close.

So while my wife and I will probably never be qualified to write a book and start scheduling seminar tours, I did recently run across an article from Mollie Hemmingway that I found to be full of good, practical advice. I’ll include several of her points here along with excerpts, but I really encourage you to read the whole thing.