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Five Things to Keep in Mind if You’re a Perfectionist

It’s not easy being a perfectionist. I don’t say that because I’m some kind of psychological and behavioral expert. I know it both from observation as a pastor and from personal experience: I’m a card-carrying member of the club (he says, to the shock of no friend or family member).

And if you have a bit of the perfectionist in you, then I’m guessing you didn’t need me to tell you that it can be challenging. You’re well aware that you’re liable to get frustrated with others—spouse/kids/coworkers/friends/person in the next lane/etc.—when your (rather high) expectations aren’t met. You know that you may get even more frustrated when you don’t meet those expectations. You’d like to be more encouraging, but your focus continually goes toward what needs improvement. You don’t always like to delegate things to other people because you’re worried they may not have the same standard as you do. You’d sometimes rather not get started on a project because you’re worried you can’t do it as well as you’d like. And you get discouraged when you can seem to get on top of everything that needs your attention. We could go on.